It's such an unfeeling word, that strikes fear in the heart of separated parents everywhere. What is custody?
I will tell you what it's not. Custody is NOT a pawn you use to hurt someone else. I'm willing to share, however, my soon to be ex husband, isn't. Why? Because he knows it will hurt me, and he wants to make his mother happy. But who is a better parent? The pot head who refuses to take his depression meds? Or the anxiety ridden who does everything to try to be okay? Who loves the child more? Well, that's no question..neither. He's OUR son, we both love him more than anything...or do we? Who posts more pictures of plants more than his own son? Who talks about plants more than his own son? Hmmm...
Maybe this post is unfair. I always make a point to say that my future ex is a horrible husband, but a great dad, however, with certain pictures coming to light...it no longer seems that way to me.
A lot of people will argue that I "abandoned" my son. Really? Heavily medicated and being persuaded by my ex husband to take him back to where my ex lives is abandonment? In my honest opinion, it's borderline kidnapping.
Well, since this word has been thrown in my face just to hurt me, we'll see who wins the great Custody Battle.
